Last night I heard the saying, "Get the I out of the way" and it really struck me how true that is. We get so caught up in I, "I feel like this, I want this, I, I, I, I."

It is so hard not to focus on one's self, it is basic humanity. As abuse victims we have learned if we don't take care of ourselves no one else will. So, how do we get the I out of the way? Impossible? No, but it takes practice, lots and lots of practice.

With Christmas coming up tons of emotions and past hurts are going to surface. Some of us will be confronted with people who have hurt us tremendously in our past. How can we move past that and let go? Set the I aside. Do not focus on the past hurts, look at who you are now. Find the inner-strength to forgive and move forward. Let go, not for them, but for you.

I is such a small world, but it encompasses so much. To be so small it is actually quite huge. Practice for one hour changing your thinking if you find yourself thinking an I statement, "I want, I feel, I need." Just let it go, see what comes up for you if you do not focus on I.

That is not to say we need to become invisible, but we do need to realize there is more to life than "I". Look at the flip side of the I statement. Is someone else involved? How do they feel, what do they need?

Give it a try and please let me know how this makes you feel. Feedback from you is important. My hope is that we can create a victimless world, but we can only do it together. Alone I am one and weak, together we are a community and strong.

Good luck getting out of your way this week.